very much crushed....
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Topic: very much crushed....
Posted By: KillerCanuk
Subject: very much crushed....
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 11:15am
yup....my g/f of about 4 years decided that she doesn't really know me anymore and that she doens't feel the same way about me. So we're gonna try being "Just friends" for a while.....so yeah....life sucks....  ------------- 
I'll go Home, I'll go Home, Full of the devil and full of the rum. I'll go home, oh I'll go home, I'll go home in the morning. |
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Posted By: tyranny
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 11:16am
| mmmm the lets just be friends who hasn't heard that before |
Posted By: reifidom
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 11:21am
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Let's just be friends = Please be there for my as a boyfriend in all but the physical affection aspects and remain my emotional sponge while leaving me free to date and complain to you about other people all while maintaining the illusion that things between us are just as great as they've ever been. ------------- 
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Posted By: MetallicaESPa5
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 11:25am
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hahahhaha^ ------------- 
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Posted By: SandMan
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 11:26am
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Jeez... That sucks.
But you know what? It just makes you that much stronger for the future. ------------- Real Men Love Cheeses |
Posted By: Hades
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 11:27am
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I say dont be her friend. Move on to the next girl. There are lots more fishes in the sea.
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Posted By: boomstick
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 11:29am
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4 years. and she just decided to break it off. weird. ------------- YONK~!~ |
Posted By: Mountainranger
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 11:30am
| Here's a tip... You are never "just friends" afterwards... In fact, most people are hardly ever civil. What you should do to... help the grieving process is burn her in effigy and avoid her at all costs. Not only that, tell all your friends how horrible she is. |
Posted By: SandMan
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 11:31am
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Yeah, the thing is... A lot of emotions have to be worked out before you can ever be friends again without sharing a deeper bond. You can't just step back. The mind and heart don't work that way. ------------- Real Men Love Cheeses |
Posted By: Spud2
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 12:44pm
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SandMan wrote:Posted By: ThEeViLcHiCkEn
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 1:34pm
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hahaha that says be there for me, but no sex you say ummm no screw you....(mumbels to himself) "no sex, who does she think she is"... |
Posted By: 636andy636
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 1:45pm
awww poor you you lost your kitty 
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Posted By: tippy_182
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 2:23pm
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Get another girl, and make out on her front yard. You'll feel better I promise.
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Posted By: MSG.Mobius
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 2:25pm
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Unless the new girl is ugly. ------------- 
Coming in May 2005! |
Posted By: SandMan
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 3:39pm
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Some guy has the guts to be open about his feelings and you morons are obsessed with whether the girl is hot or not. If you were any more shallow, you'd drown in the bathtub. ------------- Real Men Love Cheeses |
Posted By: Dazed
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 3:56pm
| I really can't imagine dating someone for 4 years. seems to me you should be ready to pop out a kid by now. |
Posted By: NotDaveEllis
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 4:00pm
| Sandman should go on Loveline. |
Posted By: ekeboo
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 4:02pm
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^that is true lol your killin me -------------  
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Posted By: MSG.Mobius
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 4:04pm
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I don't know about you, but if my girlfreind wanted to get back at me and she made out with a REALLY ugly kid, I would laugh. -------------
Coming in May 2005! |
Posted By: ImpyKing2
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 4:06pm
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Lol ------------- (I'm a nob with no clue about almost anything...) |
Posted By: SandMan
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 4:10pm
That's not funny. Seriously, even though guys often gloss over some of this crap, the mind and emotions are fragile and intricate; Even in guys who act tough. ------------- Real Men Love Cheeses |
Posted By: MSG.Mobius
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 4:32pm
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We are simple minded. -------------
Coming in May 2005! |
Posted By: SandMan
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 4:34pm
Hehe... You said it. I'm not arguing, but you said it. ------------- Real Men Love Cheeses |
Posted By: rednekk98
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 4:48pm
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Posted By: DracoPlasm
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 4:56pm
lol speak for yourself I say just forget about her...go find someone else ------------- 
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Posted By: MSG.Mobius
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 5:00pm
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I am sure that most of us are shallow enough and prefer beuty over personality. One case where being freinds work(not perfectly though) You meet a pretty girl with a good personality, she's not shallow and is nice to be around with. Most girls that are pretty have dumb points of views a selfish mind and can't stand being around you and your freinds, while your being yourselves. -------------
Coming in May 2005! |
Posted By: SandMan
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 5:03pm
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Being attracted to good looking people is fine. Allowing it to consume and control your mind, while typically American, is mindless, pointless, and fruitless.
Now wipe that drool off your chin. ------------- Real Men Love Cheeses |
Posted By: Badsmitty
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 6:12pm
Pegged it. She's a psychic leach. Dump her ruthlessly in public. |
Posted By: jaked588
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 6:15pm
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screw that. 4 years, and shes doesnt know u anymore? why would u want to be her friend ------------- 
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Posted By: Smitty
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 6:16pm
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Posted By: Dan db09
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 6:25pm
| i know how it feels. no worries |
Posted By: 98God
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 6:50pm
| ehhh your best bet is to move on...yeah i know its hard but its the only way |
Posted By: [FI]
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 7:16pm
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Alright, three things have helped me not really care:
That's about it. I don't understand the shallow comment? At first it was funny because shallow is often associated with water, but if I were any more shallow...how would I drowned? Anyway...friends, parties, dip, and beer can help (no joke, I'm not making light of it, it helps!) This is why I want to dump the girl I'm with because at some point, it will happen (more than likely) and it will hurt less if I do the dumping and hurt both of us less if we aren't too close. ------------- Don't believe everything you think I can resist anything but temptation |
Posted By: choopie911
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 7:21pm
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I dont know what sort of junk everyone else said, as I skipped right to reply after reading your thread. I am really, really sorry to hear it. My gf of over a year did that to me too, and it sucked, a heck of alot, so I sort of know what you are going through. I hope everything turns out ok for you man. good luck.
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Posted By: thecorpseman
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 8:06pm
hahahahahaha i like that.  ------------- FAPM- Forumers against PopeMobile. |
Posted By: Random_Person
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 9:14pm
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that sucks, now go to a strip club and get over it ------------- http://profile.xfire.com/kentuckyfriedgangsta"> 
I wish my grass was emo so it would cut itself. |
Posted By: KillerCanuk
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 9:44pm
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Hey guys, thanks for the concern and sentement. Sandman, you're really cool about this.
Well, I've spent the last 5 hours or so with her, talking things over. Turns out she does still have alot of love for me, but it turned out that she thought she was focusing too much of her time around me. All the other stuff was more of a side note. We talked alot and worked things out more or less. She's going to spend less time with me, and more time with her friends and stuff. (which is fine, I never wanted her to focus entirely on me) I donno though, I really want this to work out. Lets just hope she doesn't have another change of heart. -------------
I'll go Home, I'll go Home, Full of the devil and full of the rum. I'll go home, oh I'll go home, I'll go home in the morning. |
Posted By: Ajreaper
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 10:39pm
My gawd that's about as close to a definition for that as I've ever heard  - you are to be congratulated!!!
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Posted By: PlentifulBalls
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 11:47pm
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one thing is fr sure, if you go back with her, and she has another
change of heart, you need to drop her like a sack of wet dirt. Or mud.
Whatever you prefer. At least you had a girlfriend. Plenti isn't exactly popular with the ladies. ------------- 
sporx wrote: well...ya i prolly will be a virgin till i'm at least 30. |
Posted By: Fallout_soldier
Date Posted: 29 July 2004 at 11:48pm
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ask for benefits ------------- 
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Posted By: Hades
Date Posted: 30 July 2004 at 12:07am
If I were you, I would get out now. You are already growing apart and the gap is just going to get bigger. If she was ready to call it quits already she is going to do it again. I am calling that from this point on she is now using you because you are to attached to her. If you stay in this prepare for more hurt. Not to add suspision in your head, but what do you suppose she and her friends are going to do while they hang out? Find her a new boyfriend. What can I say, Love Hurts. -------------
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Posted By: Nocens
Date Posted: 30 July 2004 at 2:34am
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Hang out with your closest buddies for a long while, if at all possible (I'm talking a couple of hours a day here, not a couple of hours a week) -- it helps out a lot. Do something that involves (helping) other people if at all possible. Also, do things that'll keep your mind off of her: Sports, if you're into that sort of thing; computer games; exercise; school. Things are going to be weird between you and her for a long period of time -- that's normal. And you're probably going to think about her a lot during this period of time -- that's normal too. And you'll probably even think that there's a slight chance that you guys will get back together -- this is normal as well. And though what we say or do may not alter your opinion on this matter, you should really not try to hang on to her or any sort hope that you can salvage the relationship. Separate yourself from her until you, yourself feel stable and comfortable. She's already let you go and now it's your turn to let her go. You'll hear it a million times from a million faces: "Move on. There's other fish in the sea." And you won't want to -- because it hurts to think that something that was once so close is now gone; you'll think that you will never find somebody as good as her. Time will heal these wounds, however, I promise, so be patient while it works its magic. In a few weeks/months you'll get over the whole situation. Until then, however, try to keep your mind occupied with other things, as mentioned above. I'm sure a lot of us have experienced this matter before, some more affected than others. So we know what you're going through. If you need to vent/talk about something we are (Or at the very least, I am) here to listen. Keep that chin up, boy. You'll find another. Out. |
Posted By: Badsmitty
Date Posted: 30 July 2004 at 4:06am
Mayday! Mayday! Eject! Eject! |
Posted By: KillerCanuk
Date Posted: 30 July 2004 at 7:17am
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Thanks guys. I understand all of you telling me to bail, and in any other situation, I probably would. But after 4 years of dating the girl, I'm not gonna drop her in a flash. If things can work out, I'll be happier for it. But if anything does come up again, well, then I'll eject. -------------
I'll go Home, I'll go Home, Full of the devil and full of the rum. I'll go home, oh I'll go home, I'll go home in the morning. |
Posted By: choopie911
Date Posted: 30 July 2004 at 8:40am
While normally I would say bad idea, 4 years is a long time... so I think you may be right. Either way, I hope everything works out for you. Good luck with everything. |
Posted By: choopie911
Date Posted: 30 July 2004 at 8:47am
Sad but true... it happened with my last gf, we were best friends, then went out for over a year, it was great, etc, then it was over. She wanted to be friends right away, but for me, I couldn't. Way, way too hard.
Sandman, you and I sound very much alike. It always dissapoints me when I see a serious thread, completly filled with childish remarks from people who have no idea what they are talking about. Best of luck to you dude. |
Posted By: KillerCanuk
Date Posted: 30 July 2004 at 8:55am
Don't worry about it too much guys. I kinda of expected alot of those. Seeing how the average age is this forum is around 15, most people here haven't even been in a relationship. I appreciate you're imput Choopie and Sandman. You two seem to be good guys, and I thank you for your best wishes. -------------
I'll go Home, I'll go Home, Full of the devil and full of the rum. I'll go home, oh I'll go home, I'll go home in the morning. |
Posted By: ThEeViLcHiCkEn
Date Posted: 30 July 2004 at 8:55am
| ^^ future Dr. Phil's here |
Posted By: choopie911
Date Posted: 30 July 2004 at 8:57am
Exactly what I was thinking. |
Posted By: pntbl freak
Date Posted: 30 July 2004 at 9:16am
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Yeah 4 years is a long time. If you think it is best to try and stick with it, and see if everything work out, then try it. Best of luck to you. -------------  |
Posted By: SandMan
Date Posted: 30 July 2004 at 9:27am
Oh yeah, if you don't have your own life the whole thing's jacked from the start. Your love life cannot dominate your other, non-romantic personal relationships. If it does, there's something wrong. Trust me. I know all too well where you're coming from. ------------- Real Men Love Cheeses |
Posted By: Nocens
Date Posted: 30 July 2004 at 9:48am
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Like I said, no matter what we tell him, he's going to have that slight sliver of hope that they'll get back together. And there's nothing we can do about it other than wait. Heck, I've been in that mental state before. Chances are if she broke up with you bro, you guys aren't going to get back together -- unless you guys broke up due to some serious freak accident. Like I said in my previous post, and SandMan in his, you don't want this situation dominating your life. It hurts, we all know that, but hanging on to her will only put you through more unnecessary heartache and pain. Move on. If by some chance down the road you guys do happen to get back together, great. But for the time being just try not to think about it. It's only going to make it worse for you. I feel, however, that what we say will simply fall upon deaf ears. Not because you are ignorant/naive/selfish by any means -- it has nothing to do with you at all. It's just the way the heart is. |
Posted By: SandMan
Date Posted: 30 July 2004 at 9:52am
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At the same time, though, all relationships have their hickups. I'd say, hold on if you can but keep your wits about you.
The courage to perservere is every bit as important as the courage to walk away; And it's very difficult to tell which is most appropriate in any given situation. ------------- Real Men Love Cheeses |