And it all goes tumbling down.
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Topic: And it all goes tumbling down.
Posted By: Tae Kwon Do
Subject: And it all goes tumbling down.
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 4:59pm
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My girlfriend of nearly a year left me this morning. She is in a study abroad thing. Called me from Athens. This is less than 24 hours after she said we were good. ...Sigh... ------------- 
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Posted By: White o Light
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 5:01pm
Don't dwell on this. Keep your head up high and take it gracefully. You'll be great. ------------- 
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Tae Kwon Do wrote:Posted By: NotDaveEllis
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 5:10pm
| Sucks, you're way to gruff to go gay too. |
Posted By: Lightningbolt
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 5:15pm
| I always dumped the girls that were leaving town to go to school. On more than one occaision some of them have called me back over the past 20 years to see if I wanted to hook up. "sorry.....taken.....later" |
Posted By: RoboCop
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 5:23pm
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Sounds like she hooked up with someone in Athens. Sorry. |
Posted By: Skillet42565
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 5:32pm
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Nothing that banging her mom cannot fix.
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Posted By: sporx
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 5:37pm
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I'm sorry whale. a that's gotta suck.
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Posted By: Evil Elvis
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 5:51pm
No that's something dudes do. More than likely she didnt have the heart to break up in person. It's hard to hurt someone face to face, specially when its someone you love. Sucks dude not much I can say. hang in there. ------------- 
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Posted By: Clark Kent
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 5:52pm
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Bummer. :( |
Posted By: Hairball!!!
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 5:54pm
| Sweep another fine lady off her feet with yo beard. |
Posted By: White o Light
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 5:57pm
Beard-Sweepz -------------
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Posted By: usafpilot07
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 5:57pm
www.livejournal.com - www.livejournal.com  But really, that sucks to hear. ------------- Buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo |
Posted By: Shub
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 6:05pm
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Posted By: DarkSideEchoes
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 6:17pm
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That video was great. But seriously, you're probably better off. If she doesn't have enough balls to do it in person you probably didn't do anything wrong. Take some time off. Play some CSS. ------------- 
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Posted By: Lightningbolt
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 6:20pm
| dod steam is so much better. give it a try |
Posted By: Hairball!!!
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 7:03pm
I'd hesitate to say things like this. It's possible that she intended on maintaining the relationship, but once she got there, she realized she couldn't. Or maybe she did bang some other dude. You may be better off not knowing, but don't burn that bridge yet. Maybe she'll come back and be hot for ur bod. |
Posted By: Brian Fellows
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 7:41pm
Bear? |
Posted By: Benjichang
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 7:51pm
 That's a bummer, man. -------------  irc.esper.net #paintball |
Posted By: Hitman
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 8:01pm
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And now it's time to make some poor decisions on the rebound!
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Posted By: impulse!
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 9:01pm
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What a slut ------------- 
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Posted By: BARREL BREAK
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 9:18pm
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Posted By: ShortyBP
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 9:18pm
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Chin up, mister Whale.
As much as you don't want to, just have to view it from the perspective that "it wouldn't have worked out anyway". Although, it'll probably be a few weeks before that actually sinks in. From your post... I'm guessing she didn't give a reason why? Hopefully she did. That was the worst part for me, my last year at University... I wasn't given a reason. Ate me up. She never did tell me either... although I found out for myself when I delivered the box of her belongings I had gathered up from my place and spied the picture of the new beau on her desk. Some relief from that I suppose. Anyway... carry on. Try not to dwell. You'll find your match. And I'm sure he'll be pretty. 
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Posted By: Hitman
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 9:31pm
Time is the true healer. You never know what will happen but try to see it as an opportunity. She may have been special but she did do the things she did. People are strange and you never know when another door will open. Just stay positive. I lost a girl a few months ago and think it was for the best. She had another guy in mind. Nothing I could do. Lately I'm getting close with an ex of mine so you never know what the future could be. ------------- |
Posted By: Cedric
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 11:57pm
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I'm sorry to hear that, man. It's a shame when this stuff happens, but now you can seduce some other lady with your writing. It will happen.
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Posted By: carl_the_sniper
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 12:04am
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Just get over her with some tisses and hand soap. ------------- <just say no to unnecessarily sexualized sigs> |
Posted By: -ProDigY-
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 12:17am
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Stay strong. ------------- 
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Posted By: 636andy636.
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 12:18am
Handsoap BURNS when you get it in your urethra. Unless you use dove ------------- [IMG]http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v291/anthonymartinez/402cdjo-1.gif"> |
Posted By: Hairball!!!
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 12:46am
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Posted By: Styro Folme
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 12:58am
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Posted By: Reb Cpl
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 7:38am
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Tough break man, really. I've only seen one relationship work that had distanced factored into it. Studying/working abroad is almost a natural kiss of death to a relationship. I don't know why, but I've seen it happen a half a dozen times. You'll come through it okay. The toughest part of that, my guess would be the 24 hour turnaround....because that means something went really sour in a day, or she's been lying to you. Well, best of luck getting past her. |
Posted By: rednekk98
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 11:00am
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That sucks dude, hang in there. As hard as it is to believe when a relationship falls apart, it happens all the time, and almost everybody gets over it eventually. It's gonna be rough for a while, and now is really a time for some poor decisions. On some primitive level, you begin to think of yourself as part of a couple, making poor decisions is part of this, since you need to understand that nobody is going to place a check on your bad behavior. The faster you realize this the easier being single will be. Give yourself a few days, get yourself a nice bottle of rum, find a social gathering with mixed company, don't drink until it effects your speech, but have a few. Find the most attractive female there who appears to be single, give her your "a" game. It doesn't matter if you don't have a chance in hell, or if she turns out to not have anything interesting to say, if you can start a conversation with an attractive member of the opposite sex you can't be that repulsive. There's also the possibility that you find one who's not even worth attempting to talk to, in which case, you're better than somebody. Enjoy the thought, have another drink, repeat. It's not about finding a rebound girl, it's about reminding yourself that you still have the social tools at your disposal to do this. but enough seriousness. Think back on it, things went South when you got your hair cut didn't they? |
Posted By: Hades
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 11:18am
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This thread makes Dr. Phil's TV show look manly. ------------- 
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Posted By: Hairball!!!
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 11:45am
And how does that make you feel? |
Posted By: -ProDigY-
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 11:54am
WASTIN UR TIEM! -------------
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Posted By: 636andy636.
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 1:36pm
GTFO Back to 4chan. ------------- [IMG]http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v291/anthonymartinez/402cdjo-1.gif"> |
Posted By: DBibeau855
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 2:50pm
Hmm, ide venture to say girls do it too. ------------- http://www.last.fm/user/DBibeau855/?chartstyle=myspacecolors"> 
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Posted By: Hairball!!!
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 2:52pm
I'm pretty sure this isn't related to /b/ in any way. |
Posted By: -ProDigY-
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 3:19pm
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Posted By: Styro Folme
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 3:57pm
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Posted By: Thor
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 7:19pm
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I been to athens and could barely keep a grip on my wife....oh well dude, now your FREE! ------------- A second class drive is always better than a first class walk. |
Posted By: Cedric
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 8:35pm
Yea... -------------
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Posted By: ¤ Råp¡Ð F¡rè ¤
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 9:37pm
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Posted By: FlimFlam
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 10:39pm
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That sucks man... Sucks even worse that she didn't have the brass to do it in person... At least you know what kind of person she is now... I prescribe 15 listenings to the song "Free" by Vast over the next 4 to 5 days or so... Helped me the last time... ------------- 
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Posted By: Mehs
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 10:45pm
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Go charm the nearest girl by asking her of she wants a free beard/mustache ride!
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Posted By: sporx
Date Posted: 14 June 2007 at 10:12am
way to get straight to the point. -------------
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Posted By: Enos Shenk
Date Posted: 14 June 2007 at 12:31pm
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Thats women for you.
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Posted By: Tae Kwon Do
Date Posted: 21 June 2007 at 6:59pm
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I am normally not one to post personal things going on in my life, but since I already did, I figure why not. Since I started this thread, I figured I would post a quick update. So after it happened, I went into a bit of a funk in my life. I was depressed and generally just plain out of it. She said that she just needed to be out of the obligation of a relationship for a while. She said she needed some time to just go where life takes her, to discover who she was in life, and she couldn't do that with me. I accepted that. We decided to start talking, just as me and her, not as an 'us.' We talked a lot. She called me more than she ever did while we were together. A few days ago I told her I still loved her, and that I would still be here if she decided that she wanted back in a relationship. She said she still loved me too, and she still had a romantic spark for me. Today she called me, and said that she really missed me, missed being able to call and ramble and gush when she wanted. She said that she could see herself with me again at the end of the summer when she gets home. We set up a day to go out on a date when she gets back in town. So that is that. -------------
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Posted By: choopie911
Date Posted: 21 June 2007 at 7:05pm
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Eh... I'm a little....iffy on that. She wants to get back together, but not till after she's done travelling. I'd be hoping for something like her missing you a ton/ realizing the mistake, and wanting to get back together asap
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Posted By: Tae Kwon Do
Date Posted: 21 June 2007 at 7:08pm
I would be willing to bet with every dollar I have that inside, that is what she is thinking, that she wants to get back together now. However, I know her personality, and she is a bit stubborn in the idea that once she does something or makes up her mind, it takes a bit for her to come back on it. Because I know this about her personality, the fact that she is already saying she wants to get back together as soon as August, I am taking it as a good sign. -------------
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Posted By: DarkSideEchoes
Date Posted: 21 June 2007 at 7:13pm
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I had a relationship like that. We got back together in the same day. I know you might think it's cool and all, but in all honesty, it will never be the same. You will always have this thought in the back of your mind whether or not she's trustworthy. I know it's extremely hard to accept now but I can almost 100% guarantee that that will be the outcome. Don't do it. -------------
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Posted By: Da Hui
Date Posted: 21 June 2007 at 7:26pm
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Good luck
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Posted By: Darur
Date Posted: 21 June 2007 at 7:31pm
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Best Wishes, Sir
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Posted By: Styro Folme
Date Posted: 21 June 2007 at 7:40pm
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glad everything worked out. ------------- X |
Posted By: ANARCHY_SCOUT
Date Posted: 22 June 2007 at 12:31am
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Broken trust is a like a broken bone; It may get better but never fully heal. Oh yea I came up with that on my own. Tae I honestly think you should sit down with her once she gets back and just stare into her eyes for as long as possible. I think that by that you will know if you should stay with her or not. You will know what I mean if you do it. ------------- Gamertag: Kataklysm999 
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Posted By: Tae Kwon Do
Date Posted: 22 June 2007 at 12:35am
The thing is that I don't not trust her. I still trust her 100%. If I didn't still trust her I would have walked away from the very beginning. Trust is everything in a relationship. I think she felt the distance of being apart creep up, and she got scared and made a quick decision, nothing more. I still love her, and will take her back in a flash. -------------
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Posted By: ANARCHY_SCOUT
Date Posted: 22 June 2007 at 12:44am
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Well Tae, if thats the case then of course you should let her back. Even in my very limited time with women I notice they make the most rash decisions.
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Posted By: ShortyBP
Date Posted: 22 June 2007 at 9:37am
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I think you'll be fine.
Sounds like everything is going smoothly, despite a minor speed bump in the beginning. Time spent apart is a good test. For most, it completely destroys a relationship... either immediately, or over time. But if you can get thru this, it's definitely a good sign in regards to the future. My wife left for 4mos Study Abroad in Costa Rica just 5 or so weeks after we started dating. No phone calls... just quick emails whenever she was able to get to an internet cafe. Even after she came back, I had already graduated... so we only saw each other 6-8 days a month (3 out of 4 weekends) for the following 6mos. After we were engaged, I moved down to VA... saw her even less. But it all worked out. Things were never shaky or iffy. Now we see each other almost every waking hour, as she works in the next building over. And I haven't scared her off yet. But the almost two years that we spent distanced from each other was a good indicator. While the new info regarding her wanting to get back together is good news... the fact that she is unwilling to maintain commitment while away is still something to keep an eye on. If you can't maintain commitment while away, commitment while together means nothing. It could very well be that she just wants a free-mind while in Europe... and we'll all hope for that. But I can't help but feel that she could still very well focus on Europe and her studies without having to put the relationship on hold. To me, the troublesome thought isn't in regards to trust... it's just about willingness. It should never be that either of you feels the other is any kind of "burden". And that's how I read into her plan for a break while away. The thought of her seeing other people wouldn't have been my concern (you trust her, period)... the thought that it was just too much to maintain "us" while away, that would've eaten me up. It sounds as if she might have come to the realization that she made an error... which is definitely a good sign. Everyone is entitled to make a mistake or two. I'll hope that things work out for you. 
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Posted By: little devil
Date Posted: 22 June 2007 at 1:10pm
| its all good as long as she doesnt have 5 new moves in the bed that u guys havent done before, if thats the case kick er to the curb. Were young so live it up while you can. Whats the point of spending the best years of your life dwelling on one girl? |
Posted By: Bunkered
Date Posted: 22 June 2007 at 2:31pm
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Well at least you heard from her. I've never even heard back from the girl that I broke up with a couple years ago when I was unmercifully made fun of for posting about it here...
That said, hope everything goes well for you. ------------- 
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Posted By: DarkSideEchoes
Date Posted: 22 June 2007 at 7:25pm
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Can I PLEASE get a "Praise Jesus!" -------------
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Posted By: High Voltage
Date Posted: 22 June 2007 at 7:51pm
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Drama.
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