Sexual Harassment
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Topic: Sexual Harassment
Posted By: Zata
Subject: Sexual Harassment
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 12:29pm
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So me and my girl both work together in a hospital kitchen and everyone at work assumes we are dating, although we haven't admitted to it yet. Anyways, theres this one older guy, hes probably in his mid 40's. Way before anything ever happened between us, he seemed to think he had a chance with her. He would sort of corner her in one of the walk in coolers, or back in a stock room where no one could see them. It started out with stupid little comments about getting with her. She let it get to the point where he would touch her in ways that really cross the line. Unfortunatly, shes one of those girls who are scared to say anything about it to anyone. At one point, she got pretty fed up with it and had talked to other coworkers about it. It must have gotten back to this guy, because he wouldn't even look at her or talk to her for the longest time. Now hes back at it again. I think him hearing about me and her being together sort of adds fuel to the fire, as if he thinks hes competing with me. I'm real close to doing something about it. But I told her that either she needs to say something to him, or I will. If it comes down to me saying something, should I confront him about it, or should I go straight to the bosses? I really have a low tolerance for any kind of sexual harrassment. But at the same time, with the economy, I wouldn't wanna see someone lose their job and have it affect their family. I'd like to think I can just say something to him and have it stop for good. What would you guys do? |
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Posted By: Eville
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 12:35pm
| stop his genes from spreading further. |
Posted By: Mack
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 12:37pm
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If he loses his job and it affects his family it will be because he chose to be a jerk, not because you reported his jerkiness. If he is fired, you should however avoid engaging in a victory dance with turbo-mooning, finger pointing and verbal taunting. ("Nyah, nyah, nyah, you don't have a job and your family will starve" would be in very bad taste.) ------------- 
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Posted By: little devil
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 12:47pm
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He's roughly 40? how old is she? Thats just creepy if shes around 20.
But... She obviously wants it, why would she let him touch her if she doesnt want to be touched? She has a old man rape fantasy. Yep, thats it right there.
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Posted By: Benjichang
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 12:50pm
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inb4 skinhat
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Posted By: Skillet42565
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 12:51pm
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Its because you don't please her.
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Posted By: Zata
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 12:58pm
| Shes 26 |
Posted By: little devil
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 1:02pm
| She wants it, or has little self esteem. Either way, have fun buddy! |
Posted By: merc
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 1:02pm
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have HER confront him (with you there if she feels more comfortable)
let him know its going to end. if he persists talk to management. sounds like he doesnt even deserve a warning and what hes doing is over the line, he might just be too stupid to know its unwanted, or shes not being clear enough. ------------- saving the world, one warship at a time. |
Posted By: High Voltage
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 1:03pm
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Skillet42565 wrote:Posted By: Bounty
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 1:11pm
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Dont feel guilty if he loses his job, its his damn fault. I know the right thing to do is bring it ujp to the bosses, or better yet have her do it but honestly if I were in your situation I'd step up and do something. |
Posted By: Peter Parker
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 1:18pm
I want to hear you say this when you are "roughly 40"... ------------- "E Pluribus Unum" does not mean "Every man for himself". Pop Quiz: What do all the Framers of the Constitution have in common? |
Posted By: tallen702
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 1:18pm
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She needs to talk to her supervisor and file a complaint. If she needs you there as moral support or as a witness, so be it; but keep your mouth shut unless the supervisor asks you a question.
These things have to go through proper channels to be resolved legally. If she confronts him and "warns" him about how this will end, he then has every opportunity to claim he's being set up or threatened. It wouldn't help his case much, but it wouldn't help yours either. ------------- <Removed overly wide sig. Tsk, you know better.> |
Posted By: Mack
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 1:20pm
He's roughly 40? How old is she? That's just creepy if she's around 20. How's that Peter?  -------------
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Posted By: Peter Parker
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 1:21pm
That just makes you weird. The entire California economy is built around 40-something American men lusting after young women. ------------- "E Pluribus Unum" does not mean "Every man for himself". Pop Quiz: What do all the Framers of the Constitution have in common? |
Posted By: tallen702
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 1:23pm
Yeah, and we see where that's gotten them! How much are we spending on a bailout on the state of CA? ------------- <Removed overly wide sig. Tsk, you know better.> |
Posted By: little devil
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 1:30pm
I find it creepy if a 20 year old girl was allowing a 40 year old man to get as far as he has. Unless the dude has CASH, then thats just normal.
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Posted By: Peter Parker
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 1:31pm
Don't confuse the economy of the STATE of California with the lusting-after-women private industry economy generally located in California... It's doing quite well, as it always does.
Hannah Montana (the movie) opened #1 last month, beating out fast cars, monsters and aliens... ------------- "E Pluribus Unum" does not mean "Every man for himself". Pop Quiz: What do all the Framers of the Constitution have in common? |
Posted By: Peter Parker
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 1:33pm
Or you can do what I did in a similar situation a while ago: wait for him after work, jump him in the parking lot, get hauled off by the cops. Good times.
Come to think of it, tallen's way is probably better. ------------- "E Pluribus Unum" does not mean "Every man for himself". Pop Quiz: What do all the Framers of the Constitution have in common? |
Posted By: IMPULS3.
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 1:49pm
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Did you meet your g/f at this workplace? If so, first mistake.
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Posted By: choopie911
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 3:02pm
| I don't get how this is even a question.... Go report it to someone that can do something about it. |
Posted By: IMPULS3.
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 3:04pm
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Posted By: slackerr26
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 6:28pm
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Posted By: Frozen Balls
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 11:30pm
I already miss high school. Don't take it for granted, they don't stay that hot! ------------- 
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Posted By: GI JOES SON
Date Posted: 22 May 2009 at 11:46pm
your argument just lost all credibility. |
Posted By: Bunkered
Date Posted: 23 May 2009 at 12:30pm
HS Sucked. 20-ish is way better than teenagers. It probably also helps that I got out of my little podunk home-town and moved to the city. ------------- 
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Posted By: choopie911
Date Posted: 23 May 2009 at 2:55pm
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Posted By: Destruction
Date Posted: 23 May 2009 at 3:22pm
 ------------- u dont know what to do ur getting mottor boatted Men are from Magmar, women are from Venusaur. |
Posted By: brihard
Date Posted: 23 May 2009 at 5:47pm
Win. ------------- "Abortion is not "choice" in America. It is forced and the democrats are behind it, with the goal of eugenics at its foundation." -FreeEnterprise, 21 April 2011. Yup, he actually said that. |
Posted By: oldpbnoob
Date Posted: 23 May 2009 at 6:18pm
And agreed with Tallen. YOUR GIRL needs to take care of like she should have the first time it happened. It will not get better on it's own.
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Posted By: choopie911
Date Posted: 23 May 2009 at 6:23pm
| Seems to me kitchens are notorious for hanky panky |
Posted By: StormyKnight
Date Posted: 23 May 2009 at 6:30pm
That isn't even funny to joke about. ------------- 
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Posted By: Skillet42565
Date Posted: 23 May 2009 at 6:31pm
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Sure it is.
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