girl problems...
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Topic: girl problems...
Posted By: merc
Subject: girl problems...
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 2:10am
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so, coming up on 5 years next month and ive realized i stopped caring...
the house is in both of our names and i couldent afford rent anywhere else, and im not moving back in with my parents... so im still living with and dating my gf of 5 years but i just dont care anymore, we hardly talk, i dont want to go out anymore (dinner, movies, etc.), i dont like physical contact any more... i just think its over... i dont even want to try anymore. just feel stuck. ------------- saving the world, one warship at a time. |
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Posted By: ammolord
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 2:35am
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sounds like fun? ------------- PSN Tag: AmmoLord XBL: xXAmmoLordXx ~Minister of Tinkering With Things That Go "BOOM!"(AKA Minister of Munitions)~ |
Posted By: WestCoastBaller
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 3:56am
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pay a friend to sleep with her, so you can kick her our for cheating, remove her from the house title, move out and buy a tent. rent the house to some buddies then move into the backyard
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Posted By: Yomillio
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 8:35am
If you've just come to this realization, I'd stick it out for another month or two to see how things go. Everything has its ups and downs. Its a different story if you've been feeling like this for a long time though. ------------- 
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merc wrote:Posted By: merc
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 9:40am
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yea... its been this way for a while... i figure i have about another year until im making any kid of money, i hope to buy a condo down the street and rent out a room. ------------- saving the world, one warship at a time. |
Posted By: oldsoldier
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 11:04am
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Welcome to the Battle of the Sexes. First off you need a strategy, either a very well planned out re-aquisition of what ever the initial interest was, or a very well defined exit plan. Understand both will cost money, and the exit plan will be the costliest. BTDT.
She may be waiting for you to actually commit beyond girlfriend stage, and her plan is to get you to react to see if you are serious about her. Understand relationships are like battles, you win some, you lose some battles but you can not afford to lose the war. BTDT Sit down talk to her, work it out if you have even the slightest interest, if not plan accordingly. ------------- 
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Posted By: agentwhale007
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 11:59am
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Sort of along the lines of what OS said: You need to tell her what you posted here, and do it ASAP. Prolonging this is only going to make it suck worse than it already is. You know what you have to do. |
Posted By: bravecoward
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 1:20pm
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Sounds like its time for some kinky bondage
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Posted By: TheDude
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 3:10pm
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The first mistake was moving in with your girlfriend. And OS is right. BUT. The best thing you can do here is be open and honest about it. I think you'd be surprised how often feelings like that are mutual. The only difference between men and women in this type of situation is the woman will stay in a miserable relationship as long as they can, because they can't throw a 5 year relationship away just because of faded feelings. They need a reason, concrete evidence that shows they need to get out of it. Start the dialog, if you don't you could be stuck feeling the way for another five years. Also, sorry to hear about the situation merc...if you wanna talk about it, you know the forums always here to make fun of you 'til you feel better. :) ------------- "According to Sue Johanson, theres nothing that can increase your manhood, trust me I've already looked into it for myself." -Zata <keep the sigs friendly, please> |
Posted By: *Stealth*
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 5:41pm
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Give her a glass rose - it'll creep her out enough to leave on her own.
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Posted By: procarbinefreak
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 5:50pm
| if you're having girl problems i feel bad for you son.... |
Posted By: *Stealth*
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 6:30pm
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I got 99 problems
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Posted By: merc
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 8:26pm
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she let me live with her for ~ 3 years rent free (most of the time i wasent paying bills either) and for the past year i have been paying $500 of the $1825 mortgage with no down payment(she dropped like 15k into it), shes lent me tens of thousands of dollars intrest free over the past few years.
i think im just going to save up a few bucks and then egress... ------------- saving the world, one warship at a time. |
Posted By: TheDude
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 8:46pm
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wow. sounds like you owe her a baby.
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Posted By: stratoaxe
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 9:13pm
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Just from my epic failed relationships, one thing I've learned, you know when it's over. There's a difference between feeling the wear, tear, and stress of keeping up a commitment, and knowing that it's completely over. Like Whale and OS said, discuss it with her in detail, but my advice is gee tee eff oh. It only goes downhill from there, and you can save alot of bitterness and hatred by not dragging a dead relationship out to the point where you can't stand each other. It will happen. That's pretty much what I did with my fiancee, I knew it was over, I had little to no feeling left, but I kept it going until I forced myself to feel things for her, but by that time it was so far gone I got crushed in the whole ordeal. You just kind of know these things when they happen, and that's your sign to exit dodge. Just my .02. ------------- 
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Posted By: mbro
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 9:57pm
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Ok, I'm going to go with an un-MBro-like response here and make a rapid suggestion. Take a month to make our final decision here but there is a catch. In the mean time you have to try to (and do) engage in adult relations with her every night. The closeness that could potentially evolve from this or the self realization that you need to leave will make it worth it. ------------- 
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Posted By: pb125
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 11:18pm
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Yeah I really agree with the whole "think about it for a month" type deal. A lot of these emotions come in waves when you are involved in a long term relationship. Mbro's suggestion isn't bad either :D
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Posted By: Spidey667
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 11:34pm
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<Removed idiocy/swearing, you fail little boy> |
Posted By: Mehs
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 11:37pm
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lol wut^^^
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Posted By: Spidey667
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 11:51pm
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<Removed idiocy> |
Posted By: Skillet42565
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 11:52pm
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Jesus Christ that is hilarious^ ------------- 
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Posted By: *Stealth*
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 11:57pm
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Omg, I haven't laughed that hard in a long time.
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Posted By: pb125
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 12:13am
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POST(s) OF THE YEAR!!!!!!!!
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Posted By: High Voltage
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 12:24am
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What is spidey on?
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Posted By: ammolord
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 12:25am
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idk, but i want some. ------------- PSN Tag: AmmoLord XBL: xXAmmoLordXx ~Minister of Tinkering With Things That Go "BOOM!"(AKA Minister of Munitions)~ |
Posted By: Gator Taco
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 1:02am
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It would seem I picked a good time to randomly browse the forum...
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Posted By: Enos Shenk
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 1:14am
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Me too. Goodnight, enjoy the IP ban Spidey.
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Posted By: ammolord
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 1:18am
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enos just unleashed his ban-hammer. ------------- PSN Tag: AmmoLord XBL: xXAmmoLordXx ~Minister of Tinkering With Things That Go "BOOM!"(AKA Minister of Munitions)~ |
Posted By: merc
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 2:01am
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darn, i missed the stupid... ------------- saving the world, one warship at a time. |
Posted By: DeTrevni
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 2:06am
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Someone please fill me in on what just happened... ------------- Evil Elvis: "Detrevni is definally like a hillbilly hippy from hell" 
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Posted By: IMPULS3.
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 2:38am
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Posted By: jerseypaint
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 4:02am
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Posted By: Benjichang
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 10:18am
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Darnit, I missed it.
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Posted By: Ceesman762
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 10:20am
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Enos laying the smack down with the Tippmann elbow... ------------- Innocence proves nothing FUAC!!!!! |
Posted By: StormyKnight
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 10:29am
Not the board anymore... ------------- 
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Posted By: new jersey
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 12:23pm
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Posted By: ammolord
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 12:26pm
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Spidey had some stupidly long advice (wich was just greatly full of win) that used a little bit of language in it and other posts, so enos gave him a taste of the mighty ban-stick. ------------- PSN Tag: AmmoLord XBL: xXAmmoLordXx ~Minister of Tinkering With Things That Go "BOOM!"(AKA Minister of Munitions)~ |
Posted By: Benjichang
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 12:27pm
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Someone should have screenshotted it.
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Posted By: ammolord
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 1:06pm
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i was gonna, then forgot. ------------- PSN Tag: AmmoLord XBL: xXAmmoLordXx ~Minister of Tinkering With Things That Go "BOOM!"(AKA Minister of Munitions)~ |
Posted By: *Stealth*
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 6:04pm
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I feel bad for all who missed that... ... Essentially it was giant posts of various cliche' quotes and advice, poorly worded, and with even worse grammar and punctuation. It was glorious. And he opened the posts with the F-bomb. ------------- |
Posted By: Mack
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 6:07pm
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So . . . in other words he failed . . . but at least he failed big?
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Posted By: ammolord
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 6:09pm
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lol, yeah. someone should have gotten that on a screenshot. im just glad i was on, it was gone a few min after i read it. ------------- PSN Tag: AmmoLord XBL: xXAmmoLordXx ~Minister of Tinkering With Things That Go "BOOM!"(AKA Minister of Munitions)~ |
Posted By: tallen702
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 7:28pm
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Merc.
I felt the same way about my ex at the end. I stayed in the relationship out of a sense of loyalty I guess, but in the end, I knew it was over. The house issue sucks. At least I didn't have that. Good luck, and don't let the whole thing linger too long. ------------- <Removed overly wide sig. Tsk, you know better.> |
Posted By: merc
Date Posted: 23 July 2009 at 3:55pm
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well its done... we are still going to live together for the next 1-2 years because its the best for both of us financially...
im going to the boss man tomorrow morning with my kneepads to see if i can get on a trip to San Diego from september-march...keep your fingers crossed for me... ------------- saving the world, one warship at a time. |
Posted By: Eville
Date Posted: 23 July 2009 at 4:04pm
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proving your dedication?
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Posted By: StormyKnight
Date Posted: 23 July 2009 at 4:36pm
Are you both free to date in the meantime? -------------
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Posted By: slackerr26
Date Posted: 23 July 2009 at 5:00pm
that would be awkward ------------- 
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Posted By: *Stealth*
Date Posted: 23 July 2009 at 5:12pm
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I don't think I could stand to live in the same house with an X if she brought other dudes back...
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Posted By: Benjichang
Date Posted: 23 July 2009 at 5:24pm
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Posted By: tallen702
Date Posted: 23 July 2009 at 5:47pm
That's why you should always do the "it's alright to date other people now, but no bringing them to the house" for both sides. ------------- <Removed overly wide sig. Tsk, you know better.> |
Posted By: merc
Date Posted: 23 July 2009 at 10:11pm
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^ bingo, no others in the house... ------------- saving the world, one warship at a time. |
Posted By: proteus316
Date Posted: 25 July 2009 at 2:54am
You need to find her closest friend and sleep with her. Never knew the power of sleeping with a ex's bff until recently. |
Posted By: Flurry
Date Posted: 25 July 2009 at 7:39am
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that would be evil...the sleeping with the BFF thing. It might mess up theliving arrangment thing. Unless you and the friend can keep quiet. ------------- It sucks being antisocial alone. |
Posted By: merc
Date Posted: 25 July 2009 at 3:35pm
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my 1st girlfriend and her BFF shared a lot...that was a VERY fun summer...
but, when a girl has you by the nuts you learn to be polite until your loose... i wont ever co sign for anything else as long as i live... my next house will be just that. MINE! im cashing in my chips (trying to get $ from the GF and sign the whole deed to her) probably going to have to move back in with mom and step dad for a while  (il be working 40+ and taking 3 classes next semester so it wont be too bad...)
but il be saving a TON of cash and hopefully be able to buy a nice condo next summer... ------------- saving the world, one warship at a time. |
Posted By: StormyKnight
Date Posted: 25 July 2009 at 4:44pm
Nah. Sleep with her sister. -------------
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Posted By: scotchyscotch
Date Posted: 25 July 2009 at 5:13pm
Not quite. Mother. If your gonna do it then do it right. |
Posted By: Yomillio
Date Posted: 25 July 2009 at 9:58pm
Wrong. All three. And then anyone else that associates with her. Other friends, coworkers, classmates, teachers, bosses, the whole deal. -------------
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