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    Posted: 21 December 2009 at 11:06pm

So, I have a buddy, and iv known him for about 5 years now. Lately, hes been alittle deperessed, but when i got a new girlfriend 2 weeks ago, I thought he'd get better. I was wrong. I was just talking to him, and he sent me this:

 

dude i new it didnt go away i new it was going to come back i said to my self give it about a week and what do u kno it came back im falling apart im tired of *messing* up im tired of doing something wrong i always *mess* up or do something to get some1 *annoyed* im tired of it just tired and i want it to stop the doctors arent putting me on anything or doing anything and t dont understand what im going thru no1 does and t never will this depression is eating me alive soon its going to hav its way soon im not going to b able to stop it soon life will b gone all bc i *messed* up if i just had 1 wish it wouldnt b for money cars it would b for this depression to stop just stop and never come back i dont want to die but if this dont get better its going to hapen and yes dont u dare tell me thats not the ryt thing to do or thats stupid u dont kno what im going thru and yes i kno u had depression but u didnt feel the way i do now no1 does dont tell me u do bc i kno u dont no1 does i could tell u how i feel but its just to hard to say and trust me

iv tryed and it didnt work no1 understands thay say t do but t really dont im so scared ryt now my life is getting worse each and every day with this depression i keep losing pplz i kno im losing my self

 
 
What should I do? I had slight depression a while ago, but it has since past. I have no idea how to help him, at all.
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Be empathetic. If you can convince him, try to get him into counseling. Most ppl will resist, but I suffered from depression and an anxiety dissorder for years, and figuring yourself out is 1,000,000,000,000,etc,000x more effective than any meds.
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He needs to talk to someone who really understands this stuff.
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you live in a very depressing place
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Originally posted by slackerr26 slackerr26 wrote:

you live in a very depressing place
 
You have no idea.
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im starting to get one based on your threads as of late!
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Get him in the gym if the doctors wont give him anything. 
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So what happened to your knocked up gf?
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oooo the army has answers for you! but in all seriousness. Ask, Care, Escort. Come right out and ask if he's considering hurting himself, sound like he already is. Care, basically what the others are saying, be empathetic, actively listen. Escort, refer him to the proper professionals, or vica versa.

no matter how douchey it sounds, if it's life and death, you're better out looking like a douche than being the guy that could have stopped it.

i had a friend kill himself a couple months ago. he didn't show signs. This guy clearly is.
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I forgot to inquire, why are you always coming to us for social advice?
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Originally posted by rednekk98 rednekk98 wrote:

Get him in the gym if the doctors wont give him anything. 


Regardless of what the doctors do, have him get to the gym anyway. It's amazing what exercise can do for a person's psyche.

If nothing else, go running with him. Sunlight will be all the more benefit to him.
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Way to be HV.
 
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Originally posted by __sneaky__ __sneaky__ wrote:

Way to be HV.
 
Some of us consider this group here on the forum to be friends. Friends who we can usually count on when we need help, or just to blow off steam.

This.
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What exactly is wrong with his life that has him so depressed? Is it an actual circumstance or is it all mental?

I agree with the others, get him into a gym. Physical exercise will do wonders. Perhaps he has too much down time, people seem to get depressed when they have nothing going on.
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The man above speaks sense. I'm currently unemployed and every so often get a bit pissy because I'm not doing anything. 
The best advice I think is just to get him out doing anything. Going for a drive and a chat, going out drinking, The exercise sounds good too. Try and get him to meet new people if you can.

just mix it up and keep his mind off things
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Originally posted by tippmannfreak tippmannfreak wrote:

oooo the army has answers for you! but in all seriousness. Ask, Care, Escort. Come right out and ask if he's considering hurting himself, sound like he already is. Care, basically what the others are saying, be empathetic, actively listen. Escort, refer him to the proper professionals, or vica versa.

no matter how douchey it sounds, if it's life and death, you're better out looking like a douche than being the guy that could have stopped it.

i had a friend kill himself a couple months ago. he didn't show signs. This guy clearly is.
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Originally posted by scotchyscotch scotchyscotch wrote:

The man above speaks sense. I'm currently unemployed and every so often get a bit pissy because I'm not doing anything. 
The best advice I think is just to get him out doing anything. Going for a drive and a chat, going out drinking, The exercise sounds good too. Try and get him to meet new people if you can.

just mix it up and keep his mind off things
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Originally posted by brihard brihard wrote:

Originally posted by __sneaky__ __sneaky__ wrote:

Way to be HV.
 
Some of us consider this group here on the forum to be friends. Friends who we can usually count on when we need help, or just to blow off steam.

This.

Way to be overly sensitive.

I get the feeling he has no sensible, down to earth friends IRL to discuss this with. Or maybe he wishes not to discuss these matters with his other friends in order to keep them private. Maybe his friends are too close to the action and he needs a couple views from about 10,000 feet above ground level. This is why I asked a question about it. Calm down, Nancy. You don't have to go all white knight in every thread.


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Originally posted by High Voltage High Voltage wrote:

Originally posted by brihard brihard wrote:

Originally posted by __sneaky__ __sneaky__ wrote:

Way to be HV.
 
Some of us consider this group here on the forum to be friends. Friends who we can usually count on when we need help, or just to blow off steam.

This.

Way to be overly sensitive.

I get the feeling he has no sensible, down to earth friends IRL to discuss this with. Or maybe he wishes not to discuss these matters with his other friends in order to keep them private. Maybe his friends are too close to the action and he needs a couple views from about 10,000 feet above ground level. This is why I asked a question about it. Calm down, Nancy. You don't have to go all white knight in every thread.
Do his motives really matter? Ammolord asked for help, give it to him. If you got nothing, leave it alone. I'm all for making jokes/giving a hard to every single forumer here, myself included, but sometimes its a little inappropriate.
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May want to change your sig then, you obviously don't understand what it stands for.

And you want my input? Go get your friend some professional help. Also, I think you're spending too much time trying to fix broken people. Same goes for you, sneaky. Yes, it is extremely cynical of me to say that, but I've learned through experience that when you keep trying to heal the wounded animals you'll most likely drag yourself down in the process. I'm not saying avoid them at all costs, but sometimes they will get through just fine without you interfering.


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