Marriage and name change

so me and the woman are getting married very soon(and if your thinking about it dont, run off and alope dont plan it you will go insane no matter how much they say they will handle it) and im being told that she will hyphen(sp) her last name. now im not happy about this, i feel she should take my last name and thats it.

^^^ Yes, you need to lay down the law.  Women need to know who the boss is.*











*My wife knows . . . but she still lets me have my own way occasionally.

So? Get over it.

Benjichang wrote: So? Get over it.

QFT

If this is going to make you mad about it, you don't love her enough to respect her decision.

She may have particular attachment to her last name. She may feel that it identifies who she is, or that maybe her family would be upset by the change. Most women drop their middle name, use their maiden name as their middle name, and then adopt their husband's last name. In some countries and societies, the women keep their old last name and don't adopt their husband's name. I work with a woman who still goes by her last name "Hughes" when her husband's last name is "Knapp". Meanwhile Erin dropped her old last name completely and goes by "Abernethy" now. It's nothing to get upset over.

procarbinefreak wrote: hyphenated names bother me.

FreeEnterprise wrote: they seem to be more likely to lack moral convictions.

My mom and sister both kept their names when they got married.

For your information, FE, my parents have been married for 36 years.

FreeEnterprise wrote: personally, I would like to see a long term study on the amount of women that keep their last name, and how many cheat/ end up divorced...   I know lots of people that have done that, and they seem to be more likely to lack moral convictions.   it would be an interesting study.         in the end, trust your gut.

So you're crazy in all walks of life, not just politics?

Does she have a particular reason to wanting to (half) keep her last name?