Oh wow, I’m staving off panic right now..

So my girlfriend has been sick for like a week. I hadn't seen her for like 4 days, because her mom always knows what's best for both of us, until today when we got to hang out for a while becuase she ~thought~ she was better. Anyway, she got sick again and I had to go home. Well, that was fine 'cause we've both been sick before and I can deal with not seeing her and all, but about 20 minutes ago she called me and said that she went back to the hospital and her mom is making her take a pregnancy test because she "knows" we've done stuff and she thinks that might be why she's sick....AND THAT'S ALL I GOT. I'm 18 and she's 17, we've been together for around 2 and a half years, I'm in college, and we are definately not at a good spot to be having a kid. I know if she's pregnant it's our fault and I need to do what I need to do but I'm seriously freaking out. Just the fact that her mom "knows" we've done stuff could really screw us up majorly. I don't know what the results are or anything so it's just blind panic but it's bad....Cross your fingers or give advice or whatever, I just had to get that out....

Get her a smoothie with a morning after pill in it, problem solved if she is pregnant

If she's pregnant, by the time she's sick it's already too late. Morning after pill is a godsend though- my girl and I had to do that once after a rubber broke.

Best of luck, Ryan- here's hoping she's jsut a bit sick and will get over it.

GI JOES SON wrote: that sucks dude....well if shes 17 i assume that shes a senior in high school soon to be 18...when shes 18 her mom cant really do anything besides of disowning her so youll be able to see her at least....good luck though man

And the award for 'least reassuring post' goes to...

Good luck.  That's why you wait until you're married man.  Never risk it.  I know I'll get flamed for this or something of the sort, but it's good advice.

just wait for the test to come back, dont freak out, she may or may not be. if she is then freak out if not take it as a learning experiance.

Sammy wrote: .Ryan wrote: No, just turned 17, still screwed for a year. And if she is pregnant, I'm taking care of the kid. I don't like abortion and it's too late for a morning after pill.... God, I don't care if she is 17, she's not living in the home she lives in with my kid in/with her....I have no problem staying with her, we're basically engaged, but her family is absolutely wacked and they live in a craphole. And her dad smokes.....this could be so bad... I would advise to not go that way. A 17 and 18 year old living together, with a baby, without an education, trying to support each other will not work.

It's doable. I know a few people whoa re pulling it off.

Smitty: You're probably right. I'd say it probably easier said than done though. Not to mention hindsight is 20/20


HV: My politics are more mixed than you might think. Thanks for being cool though.


CS: I'm tryin man. It's hard though. And I usually prefer that my learning experiences not completely alter my life....


Sammy: I don't care if we have to live with my grandparents for a while, I hate that she has to live like that. I wont allow my kid to.

Everyone else: Thanks for the support, it actually means a lot.


Man, I'm tired too. I actually think it's a defense mechanism I've developed, I get tired when I get stressed. But yeah, it sucks, I have to wait up for her call....






Edited by .Ryan - 07 April 2006 at 11:15pm

.Ryan wrote: Smitty: You're probably right. I'd say it probably easier said than done though. Not to mention hindsight is 20/20 HV: My politics are more mixed than you might think. Thanks for being cool though. CS: I'm tryin man. It's hard though. And I usually prefer that my learning experiences not completely alter my life.... Sammy: I don't care if we have to live with my grandparents for a while, I hate that she has to live like that. I wont allow my kid to.

its good that your owning up to it man, a lot of people would just walk out or something, i commend you big time for that.....its also good that your looking out for your gf's and kids best interest

Believe it or not Ryan i was named the father of my exgirlfriends baby. i was with her for almost 2 years, any ways i had left her and over spring break of 10th grade (about 5 month after i left her) i got a call from her telling me she was pregnant... freakin great. i told my mom, she freaked and almost killed me. any way July 10 2004 she was born (thats also my birthday) any way i went and saw her the next day in the hospital (i hadnt seen her since we broke up) any way the leagal crap started with blood testing, it was now end of winter/ begining for spring 2005, i had gone to parenting classes that the state forced me to go to, any way i was in D.C. last spring break and i got a call from my mom, results where back i wasnt the father (thank God) i havent had sex since (about 2 1/2 years). the other guy she claims it could be is some how dodging taking a test, not sure how.